I remembered the fun I had ripping a chain each day as it got closer to Christmas.

Personal fb account had been deactivated.

Been over a month since I last posted.

Note to self-plug phone in. I've received actual text messages from my friends who know I am not using my personal Facebook during September!

The show Person of Interest had a great episode about a social media creator- his site was a way to gather information about consumers, a data broker. Consumers posted information about their likes, their interests etc. Facebook it's about booking 'my face'- my image, my person, my interests and handing it over to corporations. If you get a chance to watch the episode do so.

My month is over. I was sick with a cold and a sinus infection so it was easy to stay away from Facebook. I added a cover pic that says, "This is my FB placeholder, in box me or text to connect." Within minutes I had a friend verify if I still used my regular email address and wanted my phone number. Must really make sure my phone is on.

Because I was sick pretty much the entire month I really didn't connect with many as I didn't have the energy. However this  wtf will continue, thanks again for reading! You'll have to post how you did if you refrained from FB use.

Birthdays.

Do you only remember it's someone's birthday because Facebook reminded you? What about that one friend that seems to miss your birthday but  you remember theirs?

Maybe you went the extra step to actually call, text, or send a card, anything other than a Facebook well wish and they post on Facebook the generic, "Thanks to all for the birthday wishes." No mention about your more personal birthday wish or gift, nor an actual personal "thank you".

You sharing a snippet of your life with a few of your hundreds of friends isn't making a connection with me. It's not how I view keeping in touch. If I'm sick I'd much prefer a card or text then a get well via fb. If you need my help a status update with a call to arms doesn't seem like you actually need 'my' help. Is this just me?

What about that dramatic passive aggressive friend? The one that posts updates about how life sucks,  h8ters gonna h8, or a dramatic picture that represents their love life fail. Regardless, you comment asking what's going on and either they don't respond, say to message them instead, or they are only responding to others' comments that appear more dramatic then their own original post.

Nice to see your life is full of adventure, vacations, awesome friends and a wonderful close knit family.

Is this how Facebook is to be used? Maybe I've been using it wrong this whole time. Maybe I'd feel better about myself if I too just exploit the good stuff sprinkled with a bit of exaggeration.

I feel less of a connection with family and my few friends because of Facebook. At times, I do feel inadequate. Facebook fail. I spend more time on my other fb account which is tied into my website-just to play games and not have to see how everyone else's life is awesome.

This next wtf series is 30 days free from my personal Facebook account. This will force me to actually keep in contact with those I want to keep in touch with. Maybe I too have turned into a social sloth; social media has me thinking I'm 'connecting' when I'm really not.

We'll see! During September this social sloth will be anything but. Facebook out.

Just got here? Part 1 here.

Like the likes?

How about feeling less than?
 
Post something on your wall and if didn't go over as well as you thought?

Do you wonder because you didn't comment on your friend's illness they didn't comment about your illness?

How does it make you feel when your update only earned a few likes but when you pop over to see your friend's wall and their update managed to get over a 100 likes? Some of those likes received are some of your friends that didn't 'like' your update.

How really nice to see your friends are so good to you. Yes, I'm talking about those posts...,"My friends are awesome and you know who you are!" Really? Obviously I'm not among your awesomeness friends 'cause I have no effin idea what you're talking about! Way to ostracize those not so awesome friends.

It's nice your friends are so good to you, they are posting obvious inside jokes on your wall but seriously seeing it in my news feed more than a few times a day is starting to feel 'spammy'. I now see you've dedicated an entire album for these inside jokes. *face palm* ( Must figure out how to disconnect my phone from fb as I keep seeing Jane Doe has uploaded another photo to, I-love-my-friends-and-our-inside-joke album.)

Am I bitter because my friends don't do this for me? Yes.
Or maybe my 'close' friends aren't as close as I think they are.
Or maybe others' Facebook activity is making me feel like this.

Do people even read my posts?  Maybe some got annoyed with me since I use fb to post my blog updates because many haven't signed up for blog email. We all have a junk email box and I wouldn't know the difference. My blog is something that is important to me-my writing about my postpartum depression/anxiety. Thought friends support our important stuff and maybe also the not so important stuff? They must now have stopped following because now seems less and less are responding to any of my Facebook updates.

My status updates not only suck but now I guess maybe my choice in friends suck( my friends don't actually suck just perpetuating the use of the word suck). Am I that lame? Or is it Facebook is making me feel this lame?

Dislike the likes.

Do you scrutinize posts either yours or others and when you do you end up feeling inadequate or competent?

Dr. Keith Ablow states fb can be detrimental to my mental health! I believe it. Maybe it's just me. Or maybe others like me can be negatively affected by Facebook?

I cringe when 'friends' so blatantly post pictures of their children as their avatar or cover picture; neither of which are private. So, there are your children with most likely your full name. Easy for your little lambs to be found via sites like Spokeo which provides a picture of your house if a predator so chooses a visit. Remember Richard Allen Davis? How about Polly Klass? She was abducted from her own home by the predator Davis, she didn't return home.

He didn't use the internet to find her he just happened upon her and took her from her own home. Why give these predators with a pick and choose ability? Child of choice and location of choice. Basically doing the work for them.

It took me 15 minutes to locate a friend of a friend's child's home address. Child's name was tagged so I went to her Facebook profile, her photos all public and about information links her parent's account. Went to parent's profile where parent lists city. Found multiple addresses however since parent listed current city I was able to get the correct one. Used the assessor's office to locate address.

Any pictures I did have of my child I have removed. I would post one then take it down within 24hrs. I also don't have my full name on fb. Pics I have on my blog are watermarked-another thing people should do to their online pictures. If you feel the need to publicly share  your photos you should try to protect them.

Remember a million 'likes' for Mallory? A down syndrome girl who didn't think she was beautiful and her 'sister' wanted to show she is, by having people 'like' the picture. Millions of us 'liked' her, sadly, I liked also. Well, that photo was stolen and her family was in disbelief someone was not only exploiting a special needs child but it was their child! Facebook, at the time the article was written,  proved useless trying to help the family.

Safety is an issue with this too much and over sharing. This social media monster- we don't need to feed it!

I mainly use my blog's Facebook account and only things I share on there are rewards from games and blog posts.

I plan to be less involved with my personal Facebook account. Do you think you could share less on Facebook the next 30 days? Report back how easy or difficult it was for you.

In case you haven't been following 90 day challenge.

Day 15 stats 22/m23/(11/13)/17/(20/18/21)/(11/12)/11/79 ow. My legs are jello.

Day 16 skipped the walk still super sore from yesterday!

Day 17 you mean we have to do day 15 again? whoa.

Day 18 managed to do a 45 min walk not as sore

Day 19 again day 15? omg

Day 20 went on a Mutt Strutt and walked an hour plus! Pants I couldn't get up over my hips in March fit comfortably today!

This was a tough week!

Day 8 10 minutes of tough stuff!

Day 10 some serious stuff!!!! But made it through!

Weight update lost 2.5lbs!!!

Day 11 a  45min walk and guess my blood sugar dropped which triggered a panic attack!!!! Then not cool for husband to turn to me and tell me my  lips are turning purple!!! They were purple from my Gatorade. Ugh I was so afraid I was going to pass out on someone's lawn. Luckily husband talked me through it. I managed to finish the 45min though!

Day 12 is another fittest. Results: 32/88/m24/25/22/m8/21/50 compared to Day 1 fittest +10/+14/+10/+7/+14/+2/+1/+30
quite an improvement! I thought I'd improve a little but pleasantly surprised over most of the numbers.

Day 13 another walk but now I'm gun shy. I'm afraid of another panic attack. So my therapist suggested walk 10min one way from home then walk back, and 10 min in another direction and just add 5 minutes if I can. Easy with just a little anxiety. But I still did it.

Day 14 and it's Rest day! awwwww I noticed yesterday my too tight jeans are now just tight! So something's working!